3 Tips To Deal With Fear Over The Unknown

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Change can be very scary when you have no idea what the outcome will be.

Things unexpectedly happen like when you or a loved one has to move away. Despite how excited you are for new changes you have wanted to happen, you can also be scared at the uncertainty of how it may turn out. 

Having this fear turn into a phobia can affect you physically, mentally, or emotionally. Signs of having a fear of change may include- 

  • Staying in a bad relationship

  • Sticking with your job even if you are miserable

  • Inability to accept life changes beyond your control

  • Nausea or indigestion, shaking, trembling, or sweating at the thought of change

  • Avoiding to affect positive change in a bad situation

While change can be scary, there are ways to help you deal with fear over the unknown.

1. Find the Cause of Your Fear

If you have deep anxiety about the unknown, it could be because of an underlying cause you may not even know about. Finding out exactly what you are afraid of can help you overcome fear. Think about the last time you got scared of the unknown like if you are afraid of confronting your partner about their hurtful behavior in fear they will leave you instead of making up. 

You could also write down what this situation could mean for you. For example, being single could mean living alone, not going on dates, or having anyone to celebrate holidays with. See what stands out to you about what you wrote. You could realize that you are fine with being single, but you just don't want to live alone. Think of something from your past that could be influencing your fears, such as a relationship ending before or if you have seen your parents split up.

2. Start Small

You do not have to tackle all of your fears in one day. Challenging your fear a little at a time will build your self-confidence for when you face larger fears. For instance, if you fear that your partner leaving you will set you up to living alone, think of who would be good people to live with until you find a place of your own. You can also consider thinking about moving into the neighborhood area your friends and family live in so you will close by. The rest will fall into place when the time comes with a safety plan all ready.

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3. Speak to Someone

When you are comfortable, reach out to a friend or family member for comfort. You may come to realize that you have more in common with your loved ones than you think. Once you share your story with someone, you will feel a sense of relief knowing someone is listening to you. This person can provide you with tips based on their own personal experiences. You can also try to find a support group in your area of others struggling with the same anxiety so you feel less alone.

You know your fear of the unknown is serious if it is causing you to have panic attacks or severe anxiety. If your fear of leaving an abusive relationship is causing you to stay in one, a therapist can point you in a healthier direction. Through each therapy session, you can learn all about finding coping strategies, treatment options, and any underlying reasons.  

There is no right or wrong fear to have. Everyone is afraid of something. If your fear of the unknown is still interfering with your life, reach out today to schedule your first appointment.